A priceless benefit that a divorcing couple can give to their children – and to themselves – is a mediated or collaborative divorce.
Having just spent a delightful Father’s Day with my family, I was moved by an essay I read in TIME magazine by Susanna Schrobsdorff: “Happy Father’s Day to my ex-husband (really).” Eight years after her divorce, Schrobsdorff shares the hard-earned wisdom that “the kids need both of you. If you are lucky, you will be sitting next to this person [your ex-spouse] at graduations, weddings, baby showers and, yes, funerals for the rest of your lives. There is no divorce from the kinds of celebrations and crisis situations that require both of you to show up for your children and each other.”
Divorce is painful and difficult, but it doesn’t have to be toxic. No matter how hurt and angry you are, you don’t have to let those emotions drive the negotiations. Divorce attorneys skilled in mediation and collaborative practice can help you and your spouse bring your best selves to the negotiating table. They can empower you to keep the long view in mind. Schrobsdorff articulates beautifully the “Why” of choosing the diplomatic way to divorce. To read her insightful essay, click here: http://time.com/3917732/happy-fathers-day-to-my-ex-husband-really/
© Arnold D. Cribari 2015
