After practicing matrimonial law for almost 45 years, I’ve come to the following realization: a good divorce aftermath is priceless, and an interdisciplinary collaborative divorce is the best way to obtain such an aftermath.
Why is that?
If a divorcing couple has children, guess who will be at their children’s future graduations, confirmations, bar mitzvas, weddings, the birth of the divorcing couple’s grandchildren, and the grandchildren’s graduations, confirmations, bar mitzvas and weddings?
The answer – which many unenlightened spouses and divorce lawyers lose sight of – is obvious.
If you are considering a divorce, please keep in mind that your future former spouse is the other parent of your children and will continue to be an important part of their lives – and, consequently, your life.
Why is an interdisciplinary collaborative divorce the best way to achieve this priceless aftermath?
First, collaborative divorce professionals have undergone intensive collaborative and mediation training and they spend most of their time practicing collaborative law and mediation (rather than fighting in Court). They have the knowledge, skills and desire to help their clients achieve a settlement that satisfies their reasonable needs and interests, and those of their children.
Secondly, the mental health professionals in an interdisciplinary collaborative divorce, (also known as divorce coaches, family specialists and child specialists) are experts in active listening, reframing, and other techniques that can facilitate thoughtful communication between the spouses and their children – throughout the collaborative divorce case and beyond it.
For those in the know, an interdisciplinary collaborative divorce is cutting edge and the best way to divorce for most divorcing couples in the long term.
© Arnold D. Cribari 2022
